You Can Choose to Be Happy
You can be happy because happiness is a choice. You choose your mood all day every day in reaction to every situation, every sensory input, every change in blood sugar levels or adrenaline or caffeine. Maybe you can't choose your initial gut reaction to something. Sometimes something catches you off guard and the feelings are just there, raw and unedited. After that initial moment however, as you become conscious of your emotional state, you have a choice.
Try it. In any given moment ask yourself, how do I feel? Do I feel good or bad? That's it. Good or bad. Don't break it down don't analyze it beyond those two categories. If the feeling is bad, then think of something you like, something you enjoy, a joke, a song anything and focus on it. If you really focus on this positive thing, this thing you enjoy, then very soon you will begin to feel good.
This may be difficult at first. For one thing most of us are used to feeling our feelings not choosing them. We believe that feeling happen to you in response to the world around us, the things we see, the things people say, etc. Once you get your head around the idea that you can in fact choose the way you feel, then you have to: get into the habit of stopping to notice how you're feeling; decide if you like it and; choose a better feeling if you don't.
Another reason it can be difficult to choose, get into and stay in a good feeling state is that people are often attached to their negative feelings. They are so used to feeling bad, or at least less than good, that they find comfort in it. Letting go of negative states of emotion feels risky and unsafe. When you are feeling bad, at least there's not far to fall when something bad comes up. When you are feeling negative there's a sense of keeping an eye out, expecting the bad stuff so you can take care of it before it gets out of control, before it can really hurt you. If you're feeling good you're not on alert, you're not watching out for the inevitable bad stuff and when it hits you will be hit harder than ever because you didn't see it coming.
Nothing could be further from the truth. When you are practiced at getting yourself into a good feeling state and bad things happen, you are able to bounce back quickly. You know how to get yourself to a place of feeling good. So, you can improve how you feel no matter what happens. Even better, all the time when things really are going OK, or even good, and bad things aren't happening, you get to feel good. Guess what else, a lot of those things that seemed bad when you were in a negative emotional state turn out to not really be bad in the first place.
What happens most of the time is assessed as good or bad because of the way we interpret it. Therefore, if you are feeling good, you'll interpret more things as being good. A lot of the bad things you thought were coming at your disappear because your perspective has changed and transformed them into good instead. You see, the whole glass half full vs half empty thing is true.
Since it's all up to you, make your choice. Do you want to feel good or bad? You get to decide.
Try it. In any given moment ask yourself, how do I feel? Do I feel good or bad? That's it. Good or bad. Don't break it down don't analyze it beyond those two categories. If the feeling is bad, then think of something you like, something you enjoy, a joke, a song anything and focus on it. If you really focus on this positive thing, this thing you enjoy, then very soon you will begin to feel good.
This may be difficult at first. For one thing most of us are used to feeling our feelings not choosing them. We believe that feeling happen to you in response to the world around us, the things we see, the things people say, etc. Once you get your head around the idea that you can in fact choose the way you feel, then you have to: get into the habit of stopping to notice how you're feeling; decide if you like it and; choose a better feeling if you don't.
Another reason it can be difficult to choose, get into and stay in a good feeling state is that people are often attached to their negative feelings. They are so used to feeling bad, or at least less than good, that they find comfort in it. Letting go of negative states of emotion feels risky and unsafe. When you are feeling bad, at least there's not far to fall when something bad comes up. When you are feeling negative there's a sense of keeping an eye out, expecting the bad stuff so you can take care of it before it gets out of control, before it can really hurt you. If you're feeling good you're not on alert, you're not watching out for the inevitable bad stuff and when it hits you will be hit harder than ever because you didn't see it coming.
Nothing could be further from the truth. When you are practiced at getting yourself into a good feeling state and bad things happen, you are able to bounce back quickly. You know how to get yourself to a place of feeling good. So, you can improve how you feel no matter what happens. Even better, all the time when things really are going OK, or even good, and bad things aren't happening, you get to feel good. Guess what else, a lot of those things that seemed bad when you were in a negative emotional state turn out to not really be bad in the first place.
What happens most of the time is assessed as good or bad because of the way we interpret it. Therefore, if you are feeling good, you'll interpret more things as being good. A lot of the bad things you thought were coming at your disappear because your perspective has changed and transformed them into good instead. You see, the whole glass half full vs half empty thing is true.
Since it's all up to you, make your choice. Do you want to feel good or bad? You get to decide.
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